The Unspoken Code
“We’ve got to change cultural norms too, that’s why work on the ground is so important” she explained. “We’ve got to send different messages about the importance of educating our girls.” She suggested that while boys and men were important, it was crucial for them to talk about the lack of education for girls around the world. “You know our sons are important, we love men, we all do, they’re good, they’re useful,” she said.
It may seem facetious for her to say, and that’s most likely the innocuous sense she meant for others to take it, but there is meaning behind her words. It’s a woman’s parapraxis to say men are “useful”. She’s revealing what women really think about men.
To think of it recalls the events of the first man and woman in which we come to understand their condition. She fell for the great deception. He was tempted by her. H.L. Mencken perhaps expressed it best in saying, “Temptation is a woman’s weapon and a man’s excuse.” This is the nature of men and women. It is but one aspect of their relationship since the beginning, and it is borne out of their long history together. It is the wise man who knows it.
Obama feigns her praise of men. It rings hollow. She may have spoken to an audience of women at the time, but men know what she really means.